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Good evening all.🌚

So, to start I just wanna say that for years I’ve struggled with alcoholism on and off which has not always been but also has been destructive in my life.

I’m almost 3 weeks sober and moving in with my brother in Georgia is helping tremendously with my sobriety since he is sober and being around family, friends, and support is crucial for a young man like me. I am 27.

When my mom passed when I was 16 I lost a forever part of me I’ll never get back and no matter what I’ve tried therapy, counseling etc. I’ll never be able to let her go or get over her passing. That’s where the codependency comes into play.

I’m a mommas boy still to this day and I’m not afraid to admit it. I’m a loverboy too so in relationships I’m a big ass baby I love the lovey dovey stuff and the accountability a woman brings in my life and having someone constantly there for me.

However, I know I am in no way shape or form for a relationship right now which sucks because I don’t do well when I’m alone. Of course I have my brother, sister in law, niece and nephew with me right now but that’s still not the same as a significant other.

Aside of all this, growing up my family was extremely dysfunctional and full of addiction issues, toxicity, and poverty. I am going to graduate with my BBA here soon and become the family’s Bachelor in history which I am very proud of. I already became a first generation graduate with just my associates which also meant a lot to me.

There were never any real role models to show me the ropes about the important stuff like credit, money management, handling my emotions etc.

The longer I remain sober I’m slowly gaining back my mental clarity, drive, and purpose to keep going and that fire from within is getting hotter ❤️‍🔥

I’m going to be starting my new job soon after all the background check etc goes through so in the mean time I’m just going through the daily motions and feel like I’m in airplane mode.

I’m also coming off of a awful separation with my daughters mother after living in Puerto Rico for the last 6 years and away from my babies is messing with me bad but I know I have to stay strong.

I want to start going to AA meetings as well and get myself into a community of people who also share similar struggles so I can remain focused and sober moving forward which is a key factor to turning this all around for the better.

From one stranger, human, father, brother, and friend to another. Any words of encouragement, advice, and support is appreciated. I’m doing the best I can and trusting the process. I can do this💪💯 and I don’t want to let anyone down as I work on myself and march head on throughout this journey we call life.

Good evening everyone.👋

I’m going to try to keep this short, sweet, and to the point because I know many people won’t bother reading my entire story.

When I was 16 I unexpectedly lost my mother which sent me into a spiral and I haven’t been the same since. That is when I’d say alcoholism really started to hit. It’s been on and off for years since then but definitely has taken its destructive course.

My first two daughters I haven’t seen in over 6 years. I had them with my high school sweetheart and they are currently located in Ohio still with their mom. After HS and as I came into adulthood I discovered some dark family secrets and when the relationship with her fell through I moved to Puerto Rico after meeting my 2nd daughters mother.

Because of my inconsistency in life, struggles with alcohol, handling my emotions, impulsivity, and failed relationships; I find myself alienated and away from all 4 of my children while completely restarting my life back in Georgia living with my brother.

I have a little over 2 weeks sober and being around my family and support system here in the south I’m slowly but surely starting to get back on track and heading in the right direction. I will complete my BBA here soon and will be starting my new job in the coming week.

Because of the way things ended and how reckless and irresponsible I’ve been in the past, my relationship with both my daughters mothers has been tarnished giving me no other choice but to have to take the legal route if I ever hope to see my children again.

I’m well aware this is going to take a lot of time, effort, and money to make possible but there’s nothing more in this world I’d love than to see my daughters again and be in much better standing when it happens. The oldest are 8&7 while the youngest are 5 and soon to be 6.

It kills me everyday thinking about how much of a mess I’ve been over the years but moving forward I’m committed to remaining consistent, sober, and determined to taking my life back.

I plan to inquire about AA tomorrow morning so that I can begin the steps process and hopefully meet a sponsor so I can continue to hold myself accountable to turning everything around for the better.🙏 I know having someone to vouch for me and my sobriety when I go through family court/ the legal process will be crucial so I am very devoted in doing this.

While many people in life wish to hit the lottery, become a millionaire, drive a Ferrari etc. My ultimate life goal is being the best Dad I can be and one day having all four of my daughters together with me at once. That will by far be the greatest day of my entire life.

In order for me to be there and help them I MUST help myself first. The no contact is eating me alive inside but is absolutely a key motivator to ensuring I stick to the plan and remain on the right path.

I’m man enough to admit I’ve made plenty of mistakes but with each day I wake up I know it’s an opportunity to make things right moving forward so that one day my wish can come true.🙏

To all the fathers out there that are in similar circumstances, just know I hear you, I feel you, and I see you. I pray you can reunite with your children and make things right as well. Words of encouragement, advice, and support is appreciated.

Children need their fathers but they also need healthy, healed, and happy fathers, too. 💙 Blessings to you all and whoever made it this far in the post. If someone hasn’t told you lately, I’m proud of you and keep that head up and those feet moving💯✊ You matter & you rock!

Good evening everyone🌚

I have been drinking since I was a teenager. What began as just sneaking beers from dad and having a few with the boys turned into to be a problem later on as I aged especially after my mom passed away when I was just 16.

I’m proud to say that as of today I have a little over 2 weeks without a drop and being around my brother, sister in law, niece & nephew is helping my sobriety journey tremendously!

I’m not waking up hungover, I’m not making impulsive/ravish decisions, and I have better mental clarity overall.

I don’t have any withdrawals. But I will say the urges have died down as well a whole lot but still semi “there.”

I feel good. But also, I feel bored and less fun that back when I was drinking. In the mean time I also picked up a bad habit of vaping which I know isn’t good for me but it’s better than drinking my life away.

So, as the question in the title states, when did you start to feel “normal” or in other words, comfortable and firm in being completely sober and stopping cold turkey?

Interested to hear everyone’s opinions/thoughts/advice as I’m still early in my journey but staying strong and taking it day by day. Thanks in advance🙏