I'm the oldest daughter in my family and... I wrote an essay in this text box about how my family & the world treats me. And then I deleted it. Because it's same exact story we've all already heard from a lot of women, in my life and online. At this point everyone who's going to get it already gets it.
The problem I'm having lately is I'm so angry when I notice the double standards, the biases, the emotional labor, the fact that my brother has never had to chore in his 17 years of life and I was treated like a housewife by the time I was 10.
It feels like I can't escape it, it's everywhere. It's not just effecting my mood and relationships, it's taking a physical toll. I feel sick to my stomach and anxious with a little rage mixed in when I see laundry on the floor, a sticky mess on the counter, when my dad says something insensitive or my brother lacks empathy or my mom says something like "I'm not a feminist because I like when a man holds the door open for me"
I'm seeking advice, hopefully from older feminist who found a way to be at peace with the reality we live in but really any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you for reading.