u/Feisty_Transition594

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3 weeks and my bf found a new gf.

For context, me and my bf have been in a one and a half year relationship, though not considered a long time, I did love him. We have had multiple disagreements and it all piled up on that one argument we had and decided to break up, but in good terms, like really really good terms, and we both decided to be FWB and would tell each other if we'd find new partners.

About a month after the breakup, I invited him to my hometown's festival, he had been in our ancestral house before and we just pretended that we were still in the relationship. It was very clear though that we weren't just pretending though.

A moment after the dinner at our ancestral house, with my family, cousins, titas and titos, we both went to the terrace and he saw my Facebook dating (but didn't call it out).

3 weeks after the festival, I invited him to a hike and overnight for next week, he said he's busy but he'll try to make time, and so I expected him to be there since the same happened at the festival. But the day before the hike, he texted me saying he can't, though he didn't mention why.

The day after the hike, I found out that he found a new gf already. He didn't tell me, even though we agreed. I found out when one of my friends sent me screenshots of the girl mentioning him in her IG Notes, and his IG profile picture is the girl's childhood photo. The girl was also my neighbor, anlala.

So I asked my uncle (a biker) to go with me towards his apartment unannounced, to grab my stuff from his apartment. I loved him so much that the things I left meant so much to me, that I trusted him enough to have my stuff in his apartment, and that I also wanted him to use them and cherish them just as much as I did.

But lo and behold, when I knocked, the new girl was there, though she didn't recognize me because I was wearing a balaclava and mask. I saw the girl was in her sleeping clothes, and my ex was on his too, they were cooking their dinner. I grabbed my stuff and walked out hurting.

What I can't place my head around on is that, 3 weeks ago, we were enjoying the festival. And now I come and see another person, doing what we rarely do. 3 weeks was all it took for him to find a new girlfriend, and be comfortable enough to have her inside his apartment, maybe sleeping in as well.

We still chat, rarely and curtly.

What do I do now? I still love him but I'm not sure if he still has feelings for me.

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u/Feisty_Transition594 — 4 days ago