I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t show much care for me. 18F 20M
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and we’re each other’s first serious partners. I keep building up resentment, and because of that it feels like I don’t love him as strongly anymore.
The first thing that hurt me a lot was when he didn’t come to my graduation ceremony, and then to the actual graduation as well: he slept through the whole ceremony and, even though he promised he would come to the graduation party, he ended up not coming. That was 9 months ago.
Now he comes over to my place on weekends, and I always buy food for us (we live separately). He never cooks or helps with cleaning, and he also makes promises but then doesn’t follow through. For example, I was painting furniture and wanted to change the handles (I was sick at the time), and he told me not to overwork myself and said he would come and do everything for me, and also help clean up. What happened in the end? He did nothing and didn’t even help while I was cooking food for us.
This weekend we went to the store. I picked up groceries, and he wanted noodles, spending a long time choosing which ones to get. I told him what sauces and toppings we already had at home, and he didn’t even ask whether I wanted noodles too, even though I always ask him whether he wants this food or something else instead (and I paid for everything).
Also, when I get upset, he often can’t hug me or show any other kind of affection, even though he apologizes. I’ve already told him that I want him to hug me.
I love him, but all these little things really upset me. I just needed to vent, and I’d also like some advice on how to talk to him about this.