So I’m just going to vent for a second. I think it’s kind of messed up but also a little funny because even before everything with my mom, I already felt like people could be pretty messed up. This just solidified it for me.
I (26F) recently started dating again and met this guy. I liked him, and I was open about my situation at home that I’m a caregiver and take care of my mom most of the time, but usually get a bit of a break on weekends when other caregivers come in. He was really understanding and comforting about it. He even shared that he lost his dad at 13, so I thought he might genuinely understand what I’m going through. We went on a date it was great and were planning for the second one.
Fast forward two weeks everything seemed fine but then I woke up to a text that said, “Good morning, after thinking about it, I think we’re in two different places in life and I don’t think this will work. It was nice getting to know you.” That’s verbatim.
It honestly caught me off guard, especially how cold and choppy it felt. I get that he’s not wrong we are in different places. He’s older, traveling, living freely, and I can’t really do that right now because I’m taking care of my mom. I was upfront about that from the beginning. I think what actually hurt was how it ended and how it made me feel… like maybe he was just taking advantage of my vulnerability in hopes to sleep with me. I even had a feeling about that the other day.
Anyway, it’s just sad. I don’t go out much, so I met him on Hinge. My first time using a dating app so it’s just interesting that this was my first experience getting back into dating. Not saying that I thought this was my husband, but even if I’m not looking for anything long-term due to my situation, I feel like I deserve to be treated like a human being with some type of dignity and respect.
I’m not giving up though. It’s not like he was the love of my life. I know I’ll meet someone else. It’s just… interesting.