I "21F" have been in a "sort of" relationship for about a year with a guy "24M"who is already working while I’m still in college. At first, it was great.
he was consistent, called every day, and made me feel like a priority. But now, it feels like everything has shifted and the spark is just gone. We barely talk on the phone anymore, maybe once in a blue moon or on a weekend, and our daily texts have dwindled into 10-minute surface-level conversations where he just asks how I’m doing. I used to make excuses for him, thinking he was just busy with work, but I’ve reached a point where I feel like he simply doesn’t have feelings for me anymore.
The worst part is that I’m in a high-stakes year of my degree and need to be laser-focused on my career, but I’m so distracted by this uncertainty and the fact that I don’t feel like I have the guts to bring it up to him. I’m torn between trying to fix it and just letting go so I can focus on my future, but I’m struggling with how to handle the silence and the lack of effort.
Has anyone else dealt with this transition from student to working life in a relationship, and how do you stop the emotional "lag" from ruining your academic focus?
TL;DR: My year-long relationship has hit a wall where daily calls have turned into dry, 10-minute texts. I'm worried he's lost interest, but I lack the confidence to confront him. The uncertainty is making it impossible to focus on my final year of college and career prep, and I need advice on how to handle the situation without letting it ruin my future.