UPDATE: My [28F] husband [29M]lost his job and I’m kicking him out next Friday.
Hey there! It’s been a minute, I appreciate you all for your responses, even the blunt ones, it really helped with solidifying it is okay to be done now that I have decided to be.
Link to the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/GoQZNl8W4A
To get into the update though, He ended up getting really stressed out by the job a few weeks after that post happened because I put my foot down about our finances and big spending like the tattoo that he’d been trying to get scheduled. He decided the grave shift he was working with that job was too hard on him, and switched to days. He ended up having an issue with a coworker on that shift, and doing the bus in the sun where he was walking for 45 minutes to get to his job or from his job from the bus stop. He ended up quitting the last week of February because of those situations, has played video games all day and claimed nowhere was calling him for interviews. I, on the other hand, found a job at the start of march that raised my pay to more than Ive ever been paid before. It’s been great, it’s fully remote and so flexible with my son’s [6M] school activities.
We had to move from our old apartment at the end of February because of a 3 day pay or vacate and now we’re in that situation again this month, but I’ve found a friend I’ve made at my new job that’s willing to help with the rent for this vacate notice as long as I stick to my guns about making him leave, she’s really worried about the way he’s been treating me since she’s met me. He’s gotten a lot meaner with me when my son is at school over the last few months, and about a week ago I’d asked him to donate plasma for gas money since I hadn’t gotten paid yet, and he had said “why can’t you donate plasma for once? Why do I always have to be the one to go do it?” Even though he hasn’t gone in over a month.
I don’t know why that was it, but somehow that comment did it for me, out of everything that he’s put me through. I’m going to be talking to him tomorrow and letting him know he needs to figure out other arrangements for housing by next Friday, because I’m done trying to hold the house together while he leeches off every cent I make. I’m so scared to be single after so long, but I’m also kind of excited to not have to base all schedules around him. I’ve already found a therapy office for my son to help him cope with the divorce, since we’ve been together so long he doesn’t know any other father figure besides my soon to be ex-husband. And I’m working on finding a therapist for myself as well since I’m worried I may try to convince myself to take him back, I’ve seen other people go back after splitting and I don’t want to be that person.
Tl;Dr My husband lost his job just like he always does, drowned himself in video games again, and I’m kicking him out and moving on with my life.