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I’ve started noticing a pattern with someone in my life. They’ll text me first out of nowhere, usually when they’re bored or have nothing else going on. The conversation is fine, sometimes even fun, and it feels like they genuinely want to talk.

But the moment I actually need them like when I’m having a rough day or just want someone to be there they’re suddenly gone. Replies get slow, or I’m just left on delivered.

It’s confusing because the energy isn’t consistent. It makes me question whether they actually care, or if I’m just someone they talk to when it’s convenient for them.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you even handle people like that?

I never thought I’d feel this way, but I’ve started to realize I can’t be myself around my mom anymore.

Whenever I’m dealing with something serious, whether it’s physical or mental, she just brushes it off like it’s nothing. I’ve been having really bad stomach pain and even went to the ER, but when I told her, she said there was no urgency and that I’m not dying. That honestly hurt more than I expected.

It’s not just that. When I got diagnosed with asthma, she acted like I was overreacting at first, and now she minimizes it. I have OCD and she jokes about it. When I was diagnosed with depression, she didn’t even talk to me about it she just refused medication and moved on like nothing happened. Meanwhile, I was struggling badly and she never checked in once.

Now I feel uncomfortable showing any emotion around her. I avoid crying in front of her because she gets angry, and I can’t even remember the last time I felt understood by her.

The hardest part is that I still love her. I just don’t feel supported by her anymore, and that realization hurts in a way I don’t know how to explain.

I really miss the version of her I thought I had growing up.