So this will be a slightly longer post, apologies up front but this is a very confusing an hurtful time of my life an I feel utterly lost on how to proceed.
To start, my mother has never been a mother in the textbook definition; she showed me how to smoke green an roll it, she never had custody of my siblings or I, she is a habitual liar, she told us of our fathers demise when we werent even double digits yet, an I'm starting to believe she's a narcissist.
As I child, I was her favorite because of how similar we were. After my father's death in 2007, I think something snapped in her, a more reculsove nature begun to show. She'd hide in her room an play children's games on her tablet. There's many symptoms that lead me to believe she was going through something along the lines of being stunted in age, my grandmother (her mother) agrees an stated she thought it began at age 14 when my mother found my uncle trying to commit. Her laugh has changed into an almost haunting giggle that absolutely resembles a child's.
Anyway, about 2 years ago she became homeless. I was the only one showing her a sliver of compassion regardless of how she treated all of us. I took it upon myself to bring her food an make sure her cats were well fed an taken care of. I thought she was doing the right thing, yet nothing ever came of any job application.
So about 3 months ago, I was in a bad car accident with the damage totalling my vehicle. I called my insurance only to find out someone had reported me dead, after hours of arguing they finally told me it was my own mother that made the call.
I guess what I'm wondering is, what would the benefit be for her to report me dead ?
Since finding this out, she has told me to "leave her alone" an "fuck off" when I mentioned it to her a single time. She's also blocked me. She's squatting in an older vetrans house an he is at a loss of what to do as well. We have both filed a report on her, I am in steady contact with this older gentleman. I understand I cannot force anyone to do anything but how do I get him to see she isn't his issue an she's mooching ? He recognizes but doesn't want to lose hope an as senile as I sound saying this, she's been loving this way since before I was born. I unfortunately don't think she will ever see how her actions effect the people she comes into contact with.
How do I get her out of this generous man's house ? Would it be better to file by bringing up all the money she's stolen from me to just simply get her out for now ? She's stolen from my baby brother as well. Although she's my mother, the was never a motherly connection cultivated throughout the years, so I don't necessarily feel all that bad about wanting her to face consequences.
Edit : what can I do in the terms of law ? is there something I can do to essentially an finally force her to face the consequences of her actions ?