Can we talk gifts?
I've been with my bf for over a year now. We both have kids from our previous marriage.
His kids birthday just came up and I really wanted to to give his kids gifts, as I do to my own (albeit, not as pricey).
I got the gifts, and his kids were very appreciative, but I got the feeling I messed up.
First, I didn't write anything aside from a happy birthday on the card.
Secondly, I left it at his house for them to find, as opposed to gifting them (was intentional, since I didn't want to make a big deal out of it).
Third, I'm worried I created a precedent, and they'll be expecting gifts going forward. Even though my bf reassured me there's no precedent, and I should do whatever I want.
Lastly, I'm a little worried of coming off as manipulative. There was absolutely no manipulative planning on my part, as his kids already like me, but it's still nagging the back of my head, and I can't shake off that feeling.
I know this is a lot, and I'll be talking about this with my therapist, but since this is my first relationship after 2 decades of marriage, and my first time dating (my marriage was arranged), I'm second guessing my every move.
Any insight would be greatly appreciated!!