I am M26 this story is dated in February 2025, one of the relatives bought me a proposal to marry the maternal cousin(in south india it is quite common for cousins getting married). At that moment I was working for a Job switch and due to the current market situation I was not worried about the rest of the things, my career was my highest priority and moreover I never even had a talk with her face to face till that date so I felt little weird that how could I commit to marriage without even talking to her or listen to her thoughts.(Though she is in my social media). I never bothered to talk/chat with her. I was also told that she is ready for the alliance. Also she had two brothers out of which one of them used to ask me money now and then(I sent him only twice 5k). They mentioned that we would get married the following year(2026). I did not like this proposal and backed it off.
Now she is getting married in few days. And sometimes especially elders(not my parents) talks like I did a wrong thing and listening such I feel FOMO though she is not beautiful but looking at current marriage market I feel I should have gone with it(instead of dealing with unknown may be better to deal with known faces)
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Details about me:
Senior software engineer, 30LPA, and some farms, always a toppee my academics, 5-4' height
Reasons why I did not go for it:
Never had a talk with her
I was not mentally prepared for it and ifni accept it my priority list might have changed(I switched after 2 months of the rejection with 80% hike may be satisfying my ego with this not sure)
Her bros
I felt like this marriage would cripple my career due to diversion and would be stuck in the same which I was for 4 years then
The reason why I am giving my details is to listen compatible comments and how would my parameters would impact my marriage upcoming
I want to listen to the outer world perception, insights to feel better