Seeing dad’s ex partner after he died - mum not happy (they were divorced)
Help me out here please.
My Dad sadly died in 2024, him and my mum had been separated since 2019 (after splitting up numerous times before that, Dad cheated / they were never happy together - that’s a whole other story).
Dad got together with someone after they split up and they were together a few years, she’s a nice lady, no wrong doings, (still came to dad’s funeral even though they had split up a couple of years prior).
I haven’t spoken to her for a while but decided to say hello recently. She said it would be nice to see me so we decided to meet up.
I told my Mum about this, as I like to be upfront and honest about it and she was a bit off but didn’t know when (hadn’t set the date yet).
Anyway, when the day came my mum said what are you up to today, and I responded seeing this lady - dad’s ex partner.
Mum then ignored me for the day and when I tried to speak to her she said she didn’t want to see me / get into it today.
As a side note my Mum has never forgiven my Dad for what he did, she was there for me when he died which was great of her. But now continues to speak bad of him even though he’s no longer here which I find really hard to listen to. Don’t get me wrong he shouldn’t have cheated but I often feel like I am being punished for keeping a relationship with him. There’s not many people I still get to talk to about my Dad so it was nice to actually speak about him.
What should I do in this situation?