Hi, I’m 25F and this is my first time dating someone. I met this guy (24M) online and I do like him he’s good-looking, chill, and overall nice. We’ve been on about 8 dates so far.
The issue is that he’s currently unemployed and seems to have money problems. At first, I didn’t think much of it we would kind of split things, like I’d pay for meals and he’d cover some drinks. Sometimes he’d offer to pay, but I’d step in with my card since I’m new to dating and didn’t want things to feel awkward.
But now it’s starting to feel like a pattern where I’m paying most of the time, and I don’t feel great about it. He also usually invites me over to his place because it’s more convenient for him, and when we do go out, I end up covering the expenses.
I do like him, and he seems like a genuinely nice person. I don’t mind being understanding about his situation, but I don’t want to be in a position where I’m constantly paying for everything. I’m also looking for something serious, and I’d want a partner who is financially responsible and at least able to take care of his own expenses.
Do you think I should have a conversation with him about this? How would you approach it?