WIBTA for making lists to keep track of what to talk to people about?
So the question is, I'm aware, kind of ridiculous. I'm about 90% certain that nobody would care if I did this. But I can't quite shake the nagging feeling that it could come across as disrespectful, so I'm checking my internal bias against the unaffiliated third party of The Internet.
Some context: I suffer from a handful of mental health conditions that often make it difficult for me to retain information, or to recall it on the spot. My partner in particular has been the one to bring this up to me, in the context of asking that I be more proactive in asking them how they're doing and what they're up to (a totally fair and reasonable request), but I can only imagine it's had an impact on my other friendships and relationships too.
My current plan to try to get past my challenges with recall and info retention is to just.... start writing everything down. Make myself lists of good "small talk/catching up" questions I can ask people and cycle through them to keep things from getting stale. Take notes when I'm chatting with people so I have things I can refer back to the next time we talk. I think it stands a chance at being really effective, but I'm nervous that I'll be coming across as rude, or like I can't be bothered to remember things/come up with my own questions so I'm relying on pre-established material.
So, yeah. WIBTA for keeping notes/making lists of what to talk to people about?