This is gonna be pretty long so buckle up.
Let’s call her Ava. Ava is a friend I had since middle school, we never really got too close but have gotten a bit closer since we came to a school most people that we knew weren’t going to. In the beginning of the school year there was this guy I had a crush on, I already didnt like telling crushes because I have slight trust issues but nonetheless I told her, she said oh wow yada yada and it was fine. Not even THREE DAYS later, my OTHER friend (Let’s call her Laila) got a text from my CRUSH (Let’s call him Dave) that he needs to talk to her about something (They are friends) SHE texts ME (Because I also told her) and says “This might be about you!” And I get somewhat excited, it’s about my other friend Ava I told three days prior.
She says sorry I say it’s fine and I don’t like him anymore it’s whatever and she’s like “I don’t like him im not gonna get with him” and stuff and im like okay. He asked for Ava’s number from Laila and then a bit later texts her. Ava was like “Should we prank him?” or something, and I was like okay sure I guess even though I didn’t really care. and we had this group chat where she sent messages of talking to him like for the prank and I was still confused because I didnt understand what the prank would even be?? But anyways she would show us all the messages between them and stuff and as the time passed the texts would seem to be more and more genuine and she like kept saying “I don’t like him it’s fine!”
And I kept saying it’s fine if you like him I don’t like him anymore, nonetheless, I somehow got covid right before the school week started but long story short they started talking and she was asking if he could come sit with us or we sit with him so we can play some game or something. From the start I KNEW she was gonna start liking him, not because she’s fake or anything but just because I know how she is. But anyways, surprise surprise, they started dating. This is NOT her fault because I SAID I didn’t like him anymore, but personally I just wouldn’t do that.
Anyways, every single time she had a class with him she literally just never talks to anyone else but him unless we specifically try to talk to her. He even started coming to sit with me and my friends at lunch so he could be with her or whatever but I shut that down REAL quick. He does not sit with us anymore. She overall just has this habit of forgetting about everyone else when he is around. And just today for my last class he doesn’t even HAVE that period but they got spilt and he “coincidentally” came to our period and she immediately JUST talked to him. Didnt say a WORD to me the ENTIRE class.
I feel like it’s just so annoying because you can have a boyfriend AND friends, idk why she acts like everyone else is invisible and its like I become irrelevant even though she LITERALLY LIKED SOMEONE ELSE WHEN I TOLD HER MY CRUSH AND DIDNT EVEN LIKE HIM?! Like it’s actually crazy and idk if this is fake or not because when she isn’t around him she talks to me and stuff and it’s just getting so annoying because they sit RIGHT in front of me and I just can’t take it. I don’t even like him anymore I like someone else but it’s just so odd to me to do that and then precede to forget about everyone else when he is even remotely anywhere in your presence yk?
In all, I was wondering If I should drop her because she honestly never texts me outside of school and I lowkey kinda fake liking her like I used to genuinely laugh with her but now it just feels bland. Maybe it’s because of how less I respect/feel of her EVEN THOUGH I SAID IT WAS OKAY, only because I KNOW I would never do that, and I hold my friends to my own standards IF those standards are understandable. I just feel like why lie and say you wouldn’t like him when even I KNEW you would, and then go on to forget about everyone else when your with him?? I didn’t mention this but we only have ONE class together, the class I talked about today, and I KNOW she goes out of her way to spend every living moment with him so her just instantly forgetting/not talking to me in our ONLY class just feels wrong, I feel like I shouldn’t be putting work into trying to keep this friendship if its so obvious where her loyalties lie.
With someone she just met.
So, should is she a fake friend? And should I drop her?
I’m just scared to drop her because SHE knows I USED to like him and I just don’t want her to tell him because that’s just an awkward annoying interaction I don’t want to deal with.
Any advice helps.