My husband and I both in our 20’s married almost a year, have had some issues lately regarding sex. We have a wonderful relationship and have never had arguments about anything other than sex.
We have a pretty healthy sexual relationship as far as the amount we have. The problem for me comes from feeling like I’m giving a lot more than I am getting. I love my husband and don’t mind doing things that please him (Ex: oral, handjobs).
He often initiates and i oblige in hopes that I’ll get something in return. I have a very high sex drive but I’m fully aware it’s above average. I don’t expect full blown sex every time but there’s other things I feel like he could be doing to make sure I’m getting my needs met also.
We have had so many stupid little arguments about this and today we had a big one. I serviced him orally as he had requested and after he came I was left sexually frustrated and frankly pissed off. My emotions are easily read I’ve never been able to hide them. When I pretty much begged for any kind of reciprocation he told me that he feels like he can’t please me and then proceeded to tell me how he can’t just cum and then immediately fuck me after. All the conversations we have had about this. I’ve been more than clear that just how I provide him with relief in other ways he can do the same but he just doesn’t get it.
I love my husband dearly, I’m just at a loss here. Maybe I’m overreacting and need to just stop begging and making a big deal about things. I know putting my wants and needs on the back burner probably isn’t the healthiest way to deal with the situation but at the same time I don’t want to make him feel like he’s not enough for me.
Not looking for anything particular here. Maybe words of encouragement. Surely I’m not the only one to ever have these issues. Let me know what you think!