u/Fearless-Dependent57

I 23F, BF 23M and BFF 22F

About 4 months ago at my friend’s birthday party, my boyfriend and my best friend were both drinking and talking a lot. I didn’t think much of it at the time. At one point, he went to the bathroom, and she suddenly followed him saying she wanted to check on him. Something about it felt off to me, so I followed them.

When I walked into the bathroom, they were just standing really close, kind of staring at each other, and they both acted weird when I came in. I didn’t bring it up at the time because I trusted her and didn’t think she would ever do something like that to me.

Fast forward to recently, my boyfriend and I had a big fight and a lot of truth came out. He admitted that that night they were holding hands at some points while walking around, and that she even placed his hand behind her back and he went along with it. He also admitted that he told her to come with him to the bathroom, but she still chose to follow him.

For context, I’m not completely innocent in the relationship either, there were some blurred boundaries/micro-cheating on both sides. And now we want to work on open communication and clear boundaries to move forward and I guess try again. But this situation is hitting me differently because it involves my best friend.

What hurts the most is that she never told me. I had to hear it from him months later. I can’t understand how you could do something like that to your best friend, even if you were really drunk. Part of me keeps wondering if she somehow forgot, but that doesn’t really make sense to me. Because apparently when they were left alone again at another birthday party a week after she brought it up and said “it’s better if you want to do something like this to keep it outside of the circle” as my bf told me.

Now I feel really conflicted. I don’t know if I should confront her about it, or just distance myself. I still haven’t really asked why she followed him or why they were standing faced to eachother in the bathroom and what would’ve happened if I didn’t go? I also don’t know if I’m overreacting because of the context of my relationship having issues too. Should I confront her?

I got diagnose a year ago and got vyvanse but stopped taking it because of the “impending doom” feeling. I took some again end of semester to get my assignments done but oh my god it helped me so much with just being an adult cleaning and also my overeating/binge issues. I gained about 25kg after a hard time due to my intense binges and felt unwell and just horrible. Now a year after I started taking it i stopped for a few days and the overeating came back but I’m starting to think that taking my vyvanse almost everyday is better even if I don’t have school. But honestly it’s been so helpful. Has anyone else had this on and off phase of no thinking you need your meds? It’s kind of scary to think I basically am a shell of who I am if I don’t take it and makes me nervous but at the end of the day I have these meds and they help. Just felt like ranting on how much better my mental clarity and mental health is when I take it and days where I don’t I spiral into anxiety and depression. I wanna hear about others experiences with the meds and if you also take it everyday and how it has helped!!!! Also I may need to go up to 40mg maybe once this dose is done but not sure if anyone has any experience needing to go up that would be nice too!!!!