AITA for cheating on my husband because I got bored and wanted to feel alive again??
Okay before everyone jumps down my throat PLEASE actually read this because people in my real life are making me out to be some kind of monster when the situation is way more complicated then that.
I’m 26F and my husband is 34M. We’ve been married 3 years together for 5. Honestly our marriage wasn’t even bad. Like yeah he worked alot and can be kind of emotionally bland sometimes but overall he treated me good. Paid most the bills, bought me gifts randomly, literally worshipped me at one point.
Which honestly might be part of the problem.
After awhile it got boring.
I know that sounds bad but I can’t help how I feel?? Every day felt the exact same. Wake up. Go to work. Come home. Watch Netflix. Go to bed. Repeat forever until we die I guess. Meanwhile all my friends are still going out, getting attention, having fun stories, and I felt like I became some boring suburban wife before I even turned 30.
I started posting more on Instagram and getting a ton of attention again which honestly reminded me I’m still attractive. I know people are gonna say this is narcissistic but when you’re pretty your whole life and suddenly one person stops looking at you the same way it messes with your head alot.
Then this guy at my gym started flirting with me.And before everyone acts superior, if someone attractive gave you attention every single day you’d probably enjoy it too. He was obsessed with me immediately. Told me I had “main character energy” and that I seemed too confident to be married already which yes is cheesy but it WORKED.
At first I only flirted because it was fun. That’s literally it. I liked getting dressed knowing someone would stare at me. I liked sneaking around honestly. It made me feel interesting instead of trapped in some beige adult life.
Then one night after drinks we hooked up in his car.
The issue is my husband found out because apparently he looked through my likeee iphone or smth while I was showering which I think is ALSO a violation but nobody cares about that part for some reason.
He completely freaked out. Crying, yelling, asking me how I could “throw away our future for meaningless attention.” Which first of all is dramatic because nobody died. Second of all I think he’s ignoring the fact that he got way too comfortable and stopped trying with me along time ago.
Now both our families know because he told EVERYONE. My mom called me selfish. His sister posted some shady quote online about loyalty which is honestly pathetic behavior for a grown woman. Even my friends are acting weird around me now like they’ve never made mistakes before.
What annoys me most is everyone keeps acting like my husband was this perfect angel victim when he literally ignored how unhappy and restless I was for YEARS. Sorry but relationships take maintenance. You can’t just lock down a pretty younger wife then act shocked when other men notice her.
Also people are acting like cheating is the worst thing a human can do meanwhile there’s actual criminals in the world lol.
I do feel kinda bad because he cried harder then I’ve ever seen before and keeps asking if I ever actually loved him. Which obviously I did/do in my own way. I just also think life is short and I’m too young to feel bored forever.
So AITA really or are people overreacting because cheating triggers them personally?