Is this savable?
I (29M) have gone on three dates with a woman (24F) who lives about 1.5 hours away by train. Her Hinge bio asked to be taken on a "proper date," so for our first date, I traveled to her city and made a restaurant reservation. The conversation flowed well, and we later moved to a bar. While walking afterward, I asked to hold her hand. She agreed but seemed hesitant, being super suprised and even asking if I was drunk. Despite the awkwardness, she said she enjoyed the date and wanted to see me again.
Between the first and second dates, some friction emerged. She became annoyed when I accidentally asked twice who she was hiking with, questioning my attentiveness. Additionally, when I used ChatGPT to help find a restaurant in her area for our second date, she called me out on it, which felt discouraging given that I was the one doing the planning.
For that second date, we met in a beautiful city located just 20 minutes from her and 2 hours from me. We went to the cinema and then to a restaurant. Unfortunately, I got food poisoning and felt incredibly ill. While she was initially understanding, she later made a comment suggesting my stomach's reaction might be a "sign" that we weren't meant for each other.
Communication stalled for a week after that until she reached out to ask why I hadn't texted. I explained I was unsure of her interest. We eventually agreed on a third date. She initially suggested coming to my city but backed out after realizing the three-hour round-trip commute. We settled on meeting in the same city as our second date (20 minutes from her, 2 hours from me).
On the day of the third date, she texted a few hours beforehand saying she analyzed everything and felt I wasn't interested. I reassured her, and we met up for a hike.During our hike on the third date, I finally addressed the week of silence and the perceived lack of interest. She revealed that she only reached out because a friend encouraged her to, suggesting that as a German man, my reserved communication might just be a "cultural thing" (she is Eastern European). During this conversation, she also asked me directly if I was still active on Hinge and told me she wouldnt anymore (after I said no, which is the truth but its partly because i wanted to make a social Media Break anyway). The conversation was good, but the physical disconnect remained. When we found a bench by the river (her suggestion tbf) I asked to put my arm around her. She said yes, but her body language was very stiff and awkward; she didn't lean in at al so I stopped after a bit. Shortly after, she suggested heading to the station. I felt quite disappointed and didn't feel the spark or the encouragement to try a fourth time.
Finally, we agreed to meet again next Weekend (after I asked for it) She mentioned a band she really loves and that she'd want to go on a Concert. She was excited abt going and asked when do we plan?I took the initiative to look up their tour and found a concert about a three-hour train ride away. I sent her screenshots breaking down the costs for the concert tickets, the train, and an Airbnb. When she asked if we should split everything 50/50 and I agreed, she told me she "hadn't saved up for a trip" with me, and her communication dropped off significantly over the following days. This reaction, combined with the lopsided effort in our previous dates, has caused my anxiety to spike. Reflecting on the emotional and financial investment I’ve made versus the reception I’ve received, I am seriously considering ending it. I am not sure whats the issue. I think she expects a lot of commitment while I expected more flirting/openness to physical Touch. I am aware that I am not entitled to that but i cant See myself being brave again and feel like we dont have much physical Chemistry yet and dont see that changing soon.