u/Far-Difficulty-6361

I (28f) and my hubby (30m) have never had a good sex life. (Been together almost 10 years) (married almost 8) I had a very low libido for a long time when we got together due to birth control. We waited till marriage to have sex he was a virgin I was not. It’s always been maybe 1 time a month if that. We did have a baby 3 years ago and so that contributes now too. He NEVER initiates it, and that’s what frustrates me. I could do it everyday if he told me to take my pants off and let’s go. Or if he wanted to try some new things or anything. But instead it seems like he’s still nervous and I don’t get it. When he “initiates” it, it’s usually just slow touching and then he asks me if I want to. Kinda kills the mood. I’ve expressed these things to him and he just says his love language is not physical touch… and because we don’t do it very often he stops frequently in the middle of doing it so he “can last longer” so it’s just like what the heck do I do? I don’t want to initiate it everytime but I need it more often.