The title sums it up nicely. I’ve only had 3 girlfriends in my life and the previous 2 broke up with me, so this is really the first time that I have ever contemplated something like this. The reason that I think we need to breakup up is because of incompatibility. Her family is full conservative MAGA and she has been roped into it too. She is an incredibly kind and sweet girl, so I thought that I could get her to break away from all of that. Especially looking at all the things they have done since he took office (I don’t want to get too into politics here just know I am NOT a Trump supporter and I never have been). We have had a couple of arguments about it but they always end in us making up somehow. We would argue more but we both suppress our true thoughts and feelings, and especially when we’re around each other’s families. All for the sake of keeping the peace.
I hate being around her family, for one they piss me off and for two I hate pretending to be something I’m not or even lying to them (and to an extent her) just to keep the peace. One time I did express hints of my real opinion to her mom and my gf got pissed. We had a massive fight, I thought we would break up right then and there but it didn’t happen. She knew that her parents wouldn’t like me anymore if they found out about what I truly believe. Is that really how a relationship is supposed to be? Having to hide parts of yourself from your significant other and her family?
I feel like this is not sustainable in the long term. What happens if we were to get married, or have kids? When she wants to raise them one way and I want to do it in a very different way, what happens then? That shit is going to blow up in a massive way, and we’re both going to suffer. I know that she needs the approval of her family and will never change, and I know that I can’t keep living like this, so my conclusion is that we have to break up.
I know I should have broken up with her a long time ago, I just kept holding out hope that she would change. I know I’m an idiot and a fool, I just love her and don’t want to let her go. But I know that I have to.
I would like to know if you all think my reasoning is sound, and if I’m making a good decision. I guess I just want some reassurance.
TLDR: my gf and her family are conservative and MAGA and I am not at all. This has caused conflict between me and my gf. She won’t ever change and I can’t keep living like this, so I think we have to breakup. What is your take on this situation?
Thank you for taking the time to help me.