u/Far-Barnacle-9068

Hi, I need some advice.

When we were 17, I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year—not because I didn’t love him, but because I wanted him to focus on himself. The problem is, I never explained that to him.

A year later after we got back from different provinces (He, Misamis and me, Laguna), we reconnected and started hanging out again. In my head, it felt like we were back, and I still had feelings for him, but I didn’t say anything. I’ve always struggled to express how I feel and just hoped he would understand.

Eventually, he met someone else and got into a relationship that lasted 10 years. That really hurt me, and even though I tried to move on, I never fully did. We remained very good friends. I didn’t seriously date because part of me kept thinking “what if he comes back someday?”

They’ve broken up now, and we saw each other again October last year. At one point, he said, “if you didn’t break up with me before, we might still be together now.”

Now I feel like everything I buried is coming back, and I can’t stop thinking about him. I know, deep in my heart that I still love him. I know there’s a high chance he doesn’t feel the same anymore, and I’ve accepted that.

Is it better to say it, even if its 17 years too late, or just leave it in the past? If I'll confess, how can I communicate it as genuinely, effectively as possible?

Hi, I need some advice.

When we were 17, I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year—not because I didn’t love him, but because I wanted him to focus on himself. The problem is, I never explained that to him.

A year later after we got back from different provinces (He, Misamis and me, Laguna), we reconnected and started hanging out again. In my head, it felt like we were back, and I still had feelings for him, but I didn’t say anything. I’ve always struggled to express how I feel and just hoped he would understand.

Eventually, he met someone else and got into a relationship that lasted 10 years. That really hurt me, and even though I tried to move on, I never fully did. We remained very good friends. I didn’t seriously date because part of me kept thinking “what if he comes back someday?”

They’ve broken up now, and we saw each other again October last year. At one point, he said, “if you didn’t break up with me before, we might still be together now.”

Now I feel like everything I buried is coming back, and I can’t stop thinking about him. I know, deep in my heart that I still love him. I know there’s a high chance he doesn’t feel the same anymore, and I’ve accepted that.

Is it better to say it, even if its 17 years too late, or just leave it in the past? If I'll confess, how can I communicate it as genuinely, effectively as possible?

Hi, I need some advice.

When we were 17, I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year—not because I didn’t love him, but because I wanted him to focus on himself. The problem is, I never explained that to him.

A year later after we got back from different provinces (He, Misamis and me, Laguna), we reconnected and started hanging out again. In my head, it felt like we were back, and I still had feelings for him, but I didn’t say anything. I’ve always struggled to express how I feel and just hoped he would understand.

Eventually, he met someone else and got into a relationship that lasted 10 years. That really hurt me, and even though I tried to move on, I never fully did. We remained very good friends. I didn’t seriously date because part of me kept thinking “what if he comes back someday?”

They’ve broken up now, and we saw each other again October last year. At one point, he said, “if you didn’t break up with me before, we might still be together now.”

Now I feel like everything I buried is coming back, and I can’t stop thinking about him. I know, deep in my heart that I still love him. I know there’s a high chance he doesn’t feel the same anymore, and I’ve accepted that.

Is it better to say it, even if its 17 years too late, or just leave it in the past? If I'll confess, how can I communicate it as genuinely, effectively as possible?