I [27F] have been dating my [26M] for almost 4 years and I’ve changed my mind about marriage, how do I talk about this with him?
My bf and I have been dating for nearly 4 years. That probably doesn’t seem like a long time but for us it has been, this is my first real relationship since I was a freshman in hs and I’m his first ever relationship. When we first got together we both were in agreement about not wanting/needing to be married. However, at this point in our relationship, as we’re talking about moving in together and of potentially wanting kids in the future I‘m now starting to think that marriage would be nice? I have told him that I don’t want to purposely become pregnant without being married. He seems to be in agreement on that regard and said that he could “potentially see having kids with me one day.” so if we don’t have kids we’ll never be married which means he’d only marry me to have kids and I don’t think I like that? it makes it seemed forced in my mind. i think i’d like to be idk at least engaged to instead of just being a girlfriend. We plan on moving in together soon so before anything like engagement even happens. He doesn’t see marriage as important or necessary and I don’t think it’s necessary to have a successful happy relationship but I think it’s something that I want regardless of if we have kids. And I’m not sure how to talk about this since I have changed my mind from an earlier agreement between us And I guess I’m just looking for advice on how to go about it Because I don’t want to be proposed because he feels like he has to. hopefully some of this made sense.