Hi Reddit,
Hoping you can help me with this one, as I feel a bit at a loss for words.
My (F28) Fiancé (M31) and I just had a small disagreement and the heart of it stems from him straight denying a fact of which I am saying.
The Situation: We are building decks for a card game we both like and I have one that is too strong for people to comfortably play against. On Saturday we had people over and the topic of conversation of strong decks came up, I brought up this fact and said I was planning to downgrade the deck because I don't play it often as it is.
Today, when I came home from work and my Fiancé said he was making a new deck -one that could keep up with the strong one. I replied that he wouldn't be able to play it often because it's not fun for the table and it will be moot point because I'm planning to downgrade my deck for this reason.
To this, he flatly denied. Said that I had never brought up downgrading the deck before (it's entirely possible he wasn't in the room when I was talking about it) and that it was "convenient timing" that I was "planning to change my deck as soon as he finished his," he also made the point that the statistical probability of me changing a deck that I hadn't touched in 8 months was near 0 -as though this was evidence of my deception?
Honestly, I was kind of at a loss for words. We don't have a history of lying to each other, and the idea that my partner would just accuse me of lying -and for such a stupid reason really threw me.
We went back and forth slightly, and essentially I said "I don't know how to continue a conversation if you won't believe what I'm saying."
Additional Context:
We are both Autistic.
He has a history of feeling it necessary to "prove" unusual or coincidental happenings -even though I repeatedly tell him I believe him.
We have been together almost 10 years.
We have a solid relationship with good communication.
I just have no idea what to do in this circumstance. It doesn't need to be a big argument, but it really bothers me that I would need to prove my words to him. I could reach out to the other person I was talking to and collect "evidence," but I really feel it shouldn't be necessary...