Advice Needed - Break things off?
Hi, I met my situationship around 2-3 months ago. We first met at the gym we both go to, flirted, then got each other’s numbers. I talked about potential dates and other things and sent her some gym pics. Things kinda got sexual from there as we talked about our attraction. I wasn’t told at the time but she had a boyfriend and later ghosted me to only unblock and essentially just ask for casual favors. She told me that she lost feelings and they were not ever physical. She’s my dream type of person physically and I sadly caved in as I’m a person who is very lonely (I know, I’m a piece of shit). I really don’t do hookups as I’m a sensitive person and catch feelings.
After our first interaction like this, she went to a festival and hooked up with someone else & tried to make me jealous (yes I even got showed videos 😃). I felt weird and honestly sick. I realized that I had feelings. We kept things sorta casual from there but as time went on we went on more dates, spent over 5 days a week together for over 8 hours sometimes sleeping at each others. She told me she had feelings for me. I get anxious as she goes to another festival alone and goes cold. Nothing happened and I believe it, just bad cell service but awful look for me as I freak out and she told me that her saying that her saying she had feelings was a mistake.
Time goes on and we still go on more dates, saying that I’m her bestfriend but loves that we can be romantic. The thing is, I think I really have strong feelings for her but since shes out of a relationship she wants to flirt with other guys and at least make out with them. We agreed to no sex with anyone for cleanliness and attachment purposes. Yet part of me wants some more boundaries & communication when she’s out. I don’t know if I’m able to keep doing this as mentally its hard but part of me hopes she will change how she feels about commitment. I know 2-3 months isn’t long but when we spend more time together than we do our close friends, have genuine fun, and have moments outside of sex that are just so romantic it hurts. We planned an entire summer of dates. Do I cut ties, am I too invested and need to flirt with other girls to compensate these feelings? It feels wrong and I don’t want other people. I’m happy where I am. I think she just likes the attention and she wants to enjoy freedom, but she also knows she has something good within me. But trying to have both a boyfriend and be single while I feel a sense of complete loyalty feels… off. Maybe less time together? More boundaries so J can trust?