u/Fancy-Assignment-815

Hey! I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 about 2 years ago and boy has it been a rollercoaster! I've gotten used to just riding out the rollercoaster (my meds have definitely made it gentler) but my husband hasn't. He is really supportive and has figured out some ways to help me but when things get bad and I'm depressed and we're both overwhelmed and frustrated he usually reverts back to telling me to "just take control" or "just choose to change". This usually pisses me off which makes things worse. I know he's trying to help and understand but it leaves me feeling like a failure for not being able to change or help him understand. Has anyone experienced this? How do you respond with out starting a fight or actually educate the person.