u/FanTemporary7624

Careful, sensitive topic coming up.

With all this working out and hit the gym and get down to <20 BMI talk on here lately, true, it's attractive and though I'm not there (Shredded), I do work out and stay active.

Now, I've seen my share of rather chubby, dad-bodded, doughy, men that have no problem pulling women of all shapes and sizes. Some are their equivalent in body mass index, others petite only because petite like those "bear" type men...of course, them growing a full beard completes the ensemble.

Of course, their favorite beverage is...beer at the end of the day.

The key factor is there....face. If they got the face, sometimes they can make up for it in being out of shape, with their diet mostly of meat and potatoes.

Hygiene can go without saying of course. That's a no-brainer.

And if the ladies have extra weight, in the right places, that in itself can be a draw. Ever hear of, "She's built like a base fiddle"? Yeah, that can be attractive, and I've dated them and attracted them.

Funny, some of he bigger gals turned me down because well, they were....bigger than me. 😛 They didn't like the idea of being...wider than their man. (Kind of like the height thing, but with width.

But yeah, if you are concerned about the advice about losing weight and getting lean to attract someone, well, there's the opposite of that, too. 😄

Apparently, a person is not the same person they were 10 years ago, for example.

I'm seeing a trend of women ending marriages or relationships with men that they claimed they love, but didn't deserve.

And also, we aren't the same people 10 years ago, than we are now.

For instance, I knew of a woman that married at 20, but when she reached her 30s, she was a completely different person and became incompatible with her current husband. It wasn't that he was unfaithful, abusive, or the typical stuff. But it was like they went from being compatible to incompatible as they aged.

Is there some merit to this?

I saw this post from a dating/marriage counselor that posted the said quote above. I've seen a trend lately where I'm starting to see in the algorithm, and even here, about a woman's wifely obligation to satiate her man's "itch", even though she's too tired to do on multiple occasions.

A while ago, when I used to read print media, if anyone here is old enough to have read Dear Abby, one of these contributors was a woman that would complain that sometimes when she's not in the mood, she won't want to do it with her husband if he is (as most men are almost always in the mood).

Anyways, Abby said that you should please your man, even though you may not be in the mood, as it was her obligation as a spouse to do so.

I thought I saw posts here discussing this. One was how women aren't held accountable for their actions, even in church, the way men are.

Oh yeah, I saw this recent post right here in the singles group, a woman who is a pastor I think, that said her husband likes to get it on with her before church time, and when she's in church...she's thinking about the....quickie (for the lack of a better word) she just had with her husband.

Now, I'm not sure if it was a troll post, since it was posted in a singles group, but some of these post are rather outright odd to be asking. Or I'm noticing a pattern of a trend of men in sexless marriages.

I saw a recent FB reel of a woman, telling other women what they should be doing with their spouses. She had an anecdote where they were I guess getting ready to attend a friends wedding or something, and her husband got the...itch...and she admittedly and proudly didn't deny him...and that "you ladies should have that attitude".

I dunno, I'm just seeing this arguement/pushback regarding obligatory sex in marriage.

But why do Christian women who know scripture often obey scripture in all areas, but routinely ignore the scripture in this area?

Women weaponize scripture for their own purposes. While conveniently ignoring any that support their husband's POV.