Is my boyfriends behaviour normal? Am I overthinking?
This is my first relationship, and because of the lack of experience, I've been ruminating a lot on what I should tolerate in a relationship. I feel like for the past four months that we've been together, some issues have come up and we've talked about them. However, every time I start ruminating on something he has done, I'm like "is this normal?", "am I being manipulated?". I'm exhausted and feel like its draining the life out of me.
As an example, my boyfriend got upset yesterday, because he asked for cuddles and I said yes of course, but then he constantly would grab my butt and I just wanted to be held and caressed. I told him to stop being so grabby and he started crying, because he felt like it was unfair and I took something away from him. It felt funny, since I don't think I would've reacted so strongly if my partner didn't want physical touch. He said that it feels unfair if he tends to my needs, but doesn't get what he wants. It felt weird, because I only told him to stop grabbing me and still would've gotten cuddles. I felt like I'm only a butt to him.