I grew up in an abusive household and got moved when I was 4 with my grandma who raised me till then on. I would have contact with my mother every 2 months on a visit depending if she’d go or not and my father moved to a different city to get clean.
My mother was an awful person and I made the decision when I was 14 that my life would be much better if I cut all contact.
When I was 7 my dad was still getting clean but found a woman named Sarah. She is a chinese immigrant with 3 kids. A daughter my age a son 3 years younger and a daughter 6 years younger. She helped him get clean!
I still lived with my grandma but I went and visited them every holiday.
My dad always talked about getting me back and when I started grade 10 he started pestering me to move in with him to which I said no im really happy with my friends and grandma here.
He got unbelievably upset and I said why dont you move back here and he said he doesnt want to be in a city where nothing is left for me. (This broke my heart because I had mentioned he promised hed come back for me) and then he said that sarah would never want to live here either. It clicked that he only doesnt want to now because sarah does.
I ended up moving in with them (it was meant to be for 6 months but I left after 2) but I absolutely hated it. Sarah picked on me everyday, I wore a black shirt and black basketball pants and she got everyone to laugh and me for being devoid of colour. I spent my sweet 16 alone in my room crying because she had gotten furious at me for folding clothes on the floor, sugary things are banned from her house so I couldnt have a cake.
My father always said its because its just different where she comes from which I can understand because neither of my parents are white! However she would ridicule me and single me out on purpose like giving me an unreasonable dress code. Sleeves had to cover my elbows shorts and skirts had to cover my knees. I couldnt have even a slight crop but she would let me stepsiblings (her kids) where whatever they want. She banned me from wearing pyjamas! It was summer and very hot and she got upset I wasnt wearing a bra under my nightgown. All because she thought I was trying to seduce my little brother.
She also would get mad at me when i’d be upset about my own mother saying that she had a much harder life and that I have no real reason to be upset.
I ended up standing up to my dad and saying while I loved him so much I could not deal with sarah so I left and he was upset that I couldnt just accept her.
He hasn’t spoken to me for for a month now
AITAH?