AITA for telling my dad he dug his own grave?
I (28F) have always sort of had a difficult relationship with my dad (60M). It’s not that he wasn’t physically present or abusive or anything, he just heavily favored my older brother Chris (30M) over me and my sister Diana (25F) He went to Chris’s events, talked about Chris all the time, Chris kind of took priority in the house. It’s not that he doesn’t love me and Diana, it’s just that we’re not Chris. Like, if Diana or I had an event, he would come and participate… as long as it didn’t conflict with Chris’s stuff.
The recent conflict starts with the fact that Dad and Chris both wanted to be in this very niche job field when they were younger, and both their opportunities fell through. They now work nice jobs in other fields. Diana got a job in the niche field, and is really good at it from what I can tell. It’s not the job Chris and Dad wanted, but it is adjacent. We’re all super proud of Diana, it’s what she’s wanted to do for years, and I know she’ll be great at it.
A couple weeks ago Dad and I had this dumb argument, I can’t even remember what it was about, he said something along the lines of “you and Diana only talk to me when you need something, Diana won’t even talk about her job with me.” And this was probably a dick move, I asked what he expected when he ignored me and Diana our whole lives in favor of Chris. He asked what I meant and I told him he only wants to know what Diana’s doing now cause she achieved what he and Chris didn’t. I work in a completely different field and he never asks about my job. I said he had a chance to be an attentive parent and he didn’t, so now Diana doesn’t talk to him much. He dug his own grave. We’ve been kind of distant ever since, and to my knowledge he’s stopped asking Diana about stuff.
Like, everything I said was true, but now I’m wondering if I should have said it.