33M looking for a female — Why do we check financial compatibility so seriously, but ignore sexual compatibility in arranged marriage?
I’m a 33-year-old male from Navi Mumbai, currently in the arranged marriage process and looking for a compatible female partner.
One thing I keep noticing is that people discuss financial compatibility a lot — salary, savings, lifestyle, debt, future plans etc. Fair enough, that matters.
But from my point of view, finances can usually be managed or improved over time… sexual desire can’t 😅
What about sexual compatibility / sexual desire?
What if you marry someone and later realize they have very low libido, very different intimacy expectations, or little interest in physical closeness? That can lead to frustration, emotional distance, resentment — and sometimes even cheating.
Why is there still so much taboo around discussing this openly?
Should modern arranged marriages include a proper dating/courting phase first — enough time to understand emotional and physical compatibility before commitment? Kind of “pehle samjho, phir vishwas karo” 😅
Curious how people here are handling this. Are you discussing this before marriage, dating first, or just hoping it works out?
Especially interested in perspectives from people around Mumbai / Navi Mumbai — and yes, if someone feels similarly and is also looking, happy to connect :)