I have no idea what to do. I am in a lost. So basically my birthday and my mom‘s birthday is a day apart. April 10th is mine and my mom is April 11th. I already know that either my mom or my brother are going to find this so why hide names.
I am the oldest just turned 29 and my name is Kimberly. My family is small just my husband, mother, brother and his wife.
My birthday came along and we went to Universal studios because I love harry potter and really wanted to get the whole experience you know the cape and wand. The works. My mom Diana started talking about how my brother and his wife and struggling. (more information: my brother is the only one that works in his house hold. My sister in law is a wify)
In my house hold my husband has a job and so do I. We may not be rich but we survive with what we have. You know what I mean we live paycheck to paycheck with all the utilities and rent. But we saved enough to make my mom’s and birthday enjoyable.
We bought tickets for all five us to go to universal for the two days. With food included. All i really wanted was the cape and wand. During this my husband wasnt able to buy me any gifts for my birthday since he couldn’t afford it. Which i understood. And was okay with (btw for those judgmental people he did end up, giving me a gift but late) we did get my mom a nice gift tho.
Thats is when all the drama started. Nate my brother started saying that Chris my husband didnt love me that he had to plan better . That even he gave me a birthday gift. Something my own husband didnt do.
When we made it to the park, more and more things happened that shut me down and made me quiet. I’m the type of person that if you hurt or put down, I just stay very quiet. I don’t talk or anything. I started telling my husband that I didn’t wanna be there that I wasn’t enjoying my own birthday. Then I felt like everybody getting care about my feelings.
We finally made it to the store and I was going to buy what I really wanted when I really went to go to Universal store. That’s when my mom stopped me and told me to think about what I’m doing that I’m gonna hurt Nate‘s feelings because he won’t be able to get Sophie anything. (Sophie my brother wife) so you can guess what happened i didnt get anything.
Let’s just fast forward to my mother’s birthday.
This is the second day we were at Universal Studios. I was just walking around quietly with Chris behind them. And Nate started talking to me saying why I am so quiet and upset. So i told him the things he did to me the day before that hurt me.
Nate, Sophie and my mom all yelled at me saying I am rude for starting fights. To the point that i was just looking down trying to hold back tears.
That is when Chris had enough and put everyone in there place. Saying that he had to save up his money to celebrate our birthdays. Paying everything from hotel to food. Because Nate has nowhere to fall dead to even pay his and his wife way. That they have to be more grateful. That the least they could do is say thank you.
Thats when all hell went down. And Nate got but hurt and my mom started yelling at both Chris and I saying we ruined her birthday. That I could of waited to talk about how i felt and kept it in.
We are back home now and its been two weeks and my mom is giving me the cold shoulder. (You see she lives with my husband and I) saying things like:
“I am not going to go out and eat with you until i have money to pay my way.”
“I want You guys to move out, I dont care if i die of hunger.”
“There is programs that help elderly like me.”
So I need advice on what to do. Anything helps please.