Am I overreacting about what my boyfriend did at my aunt’s birthday dinner?
So I (23F) feel kind of dumb even posting this but it’s been stuck in my head for like 3 days now and I cant tell if I’m being sensitive or if this was actually weird.
My boyfriend (27M) and I have been together about 10 months. He’s normally very calm and easygoing and honestly thats one of the reasons I liked him in the first place. He doesnt start drama. But this situation felt off and I dont know how to explain it right.
Last weekend I invited him to my aunt’s birthday dinner. It wasnt a huge thing, just family and a few friends at this small restaurant. I told him beforehand my aunt is kind of important to me because she helped raise me when my mom was working nights growing up. So I really wanted him there and for things to go well.
He almost didnt come because he said he was tired from work but then he did show up which I appreciated.
Anyway during dinner everything was normal at first. Then at some point my cousin brought one of her friends (a girl I didnt know) who sat near us because there werent enough chairs at the end of the table. My boyfriend started talking to her a lot. Like way more than normal polite conversation. Laughing at everything she said, asking her questions, telling stories I’ve literally never heard him tell before in the entire time we’ve dated.
At one point my aunt even made a joke like “oh looks like you two already know each other haha” and everyone laughed but it actually made me feel kinda weird in my stomach.
I tried not to make it a thing because maybe I was just reading into it. But then later when we were leaving he said he might add her on instagram because she “seems interesting and wants to get into the same field as him.” That part really threw me off.
On the drive home I told him it made me uncomfortable and he got quiet for a bit then said I was acting insecure and he was just being friendly and networking basically. Which I guess could be true?? but it didnt feel like networking to me at the time.
Also this was the first time he met a lot of my family and instead of talking with them he spent most of the night talking with someone neither of us even knew before that night.
Now I keep thinking maybe I embarrassed myself by saying something. I didnt yell or anything but the vibe got awkward after.
Am I overreacting about this or does that sound kinda disrespectful??