I think my sister *might* have a crush on my husband. What do I do?
Throwaway account. I’m kind of just here to vent and also for some outside input. I need advice on what to do and also I need to know from an outside perspective what is going on.
Some backstory.
So I got married roughly 8 months ago to my now husband who is 3 years older than me. My sister is 2 years older than me. When my husband and I were dating/engaged, my sister was an absolute monster. I did my best to avoid her for MONTHS because of how awful she treated me. Mainly she was hating on my relationship, my boyfriend, my appearance, and anything and everything that had to do with my wedding, bridal shower, etc. She would make comments such as “you don’t deserve love, but I do” and “I’m older I should be getting married first”, “I don’t see why he (my boyfriend) loves you when you don’t look good and I look way better”. She would yell at me constantly. Before I was in a relationship, she acted perfectly fine.
Fast forward, we are now married and I thought things got better between me and her but I think I was wrong. My younger sister (3 years younger than me) told me that my older sister would complain to her that she hates when my husband and I visit our parents (she lives with my parents) and she will have a way better husband than me. She also says she doesn’t like my husband because he doesn’t hug her. This is where I got a bit weirded out. My husband is not a hugging person and she knows this. He only hugs people he is VERY close with (his parents, some nieces/nephews, and me). This specific statement made me realize I missed some weird things from a couple months ago.
Backtrack to right before my wedding.
My sister was yelling at me saying she should be getting married first. I calmly ask her if that’s really all it is, just jealousy that I’m getting married before her. She starts defending herself saying she does not want my man. I was so confused because that was not what I was asking or accusing her of. I pointed that out and she kept saying “I don’t want or like him”. Now that I think about it now, it seems weird that she was so defensive when no one was even accusing her of that. My husband claims that there were times that she would stare at him. He is also uncomfortable with this situation and just as weirded out as I am. I am just so confused and don’t know what to think or make of this situation. Does she just hate my husband? Or does she have a crush on him? Or is she just salty that I’m in a relationship and she’s not? Whatever it is, what do I do? Any advice or commentary would be great.
Also, sorry if the layout is a bit confusing. I’m not the best at articulating my thoughts. If something doesn’t make sense I’ll try to clear it up.