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Hi! I am 32f and I have been with my boyfriend 32m for almost 5 years. We got together when his son was 4 years old. When we had first got together he would keep his son’s hair cut.
Long story short, his son is now 9. His son has curly/kinky hair and his parents are letting him grow his hair out. However, NEITHER one of them put in the time or effort to do his hair. His hair has gotten pretty long (it’s kinky so when it’s not stretched it looks like an Afro) and they do nothing to maintain it. The last time his hair was washed was about a month ago when his mom took him out of town for his bday. But before that and now, there’s no effort.

For example, when he said would get him ready for school, his Afro would be smashed on one side (from sleeping on that side) and his hair would have like lint & stuff in it. It enrages me that I need to tell him to do his hair. Even when he comes back from being with his mom for a while, there’s no changed to his hair!!!! I offered the suggestion of cutting his hair, that way he would t need to “do it “ everyday.
My bf literally said “he wants to grow his hair out so that’s what we’re doing.”

My thing is he is 9. At this age, if they are not equipping him with the tools to do take care of his hair and teaching him….and they’re not doing it…WHY WOULD THEY ALLOW HIM TO WALK AROUND LIKE THAT???

We had got into an argument because we all planned to go to the movies. Again his hair was not picked out, combed or anything. Like it’s giving NEGLECT! And I told him I’m not going to the movies with y’all until you comb his hair..BECAUSE IM EMBARRASSED, your child is a direct reflection of you… if they’re not teaching him to do his hair and they’re not doing it…WHY ALLOW HIM TO GROW HIS HAIR OUT?

I’ve done his hair many of times, and I don’t have an issue doing so. However I do have an issue with the parents not caring enough to do his goddamn hair. And the fact that they don’t want to cut it because “he really wants to grow it out.” THEY ARE THE PARENTS, they should take control. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to go to the movies though? Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Hi! I need to know if I may have a case on my hands.

I just got evicted at 9am this morning.

I had late fees that I need to pay on my balance for rent. A court order was served to me about a week ago. However I talked to the leasing office and they mentioned that that was a mistake and to disregard since we had previously spoke about me paying the late fees soon.

We had discussed that the fees need to be paid today before 9am in order for them not to start the eviction process. I showed up to the office at 8:30 ready to pay the fees, she yelled me to keep the money because the sheriff is already here to escort me out.

I have this whole conversation in email.
She’s stating that there’s nothing they can do. They don’t have a manager and now I’m out in the street when I had the money ready to pay at the time they requested. Is there ANYTHING I can do about this?!?!

Hi! I am currently dating someone with a child. I am 32f and he is 32 as well. His child will be turning 9 soon. We have been together for 4 years, have lived together for 1. When we first started dating, his bm created issues. Just with him, never me. However she would get physical with him almost every time he’s drop off/pick up his son. Like hair pulling, hitting, spitting. Again, she never did these things to me directly. However her doing that to him did make me feel a way! This was for the first year and a half within our relationship.

I can say that my bf has worked to amend the relationship between the 2. They have been co parenting well these last couple of years.as I mentioned, she’s never done anything to me physically, she’s said some things about me, which didn’t really affect me. I came into this relationship knowing that he has a child and all the things that come with that. Since the beginning I have been open to trying to have a relationship. But since they started arguing and she would become physical, I had no desire to develop any type of relationship at that time.

Fast forward to now. His son birthday is coming up and the mom planned a Disney trip for his 9th birthday. She invited my BF and me. At first he explained how it was going to just be her family, his son and him going, and me. I wasn’t comfortable with that. So I told him that I don’t think I want to go. Given me and her have never had an actual conversation with each other. So he told me “ok then I don’t have to go.”

(Recently all three of us showed up to his son’s assembly for his good behavior. He didn’t tell me she was gonna be there but I assumed she was because despite everything, she’s a good & supportive mother. I can admit that I was awkward. They’re having convos about their son and I’m just kinda standing there. Which I was completely ok with since this was the FIRST TIME all three of us were together. I expected it to be awkward.)

A couple weeks later he changed his mind saying that he’s going to go because his son wants him to be there. But that’s weird to me because he knew his son would’ve wanted him to go when he told me no the first time. He then proceeded to tell me “I don’t have a reason NOT to go, me and her are on good terms.” And in that moment, I became hurt.

I explained to him how he was going back on him telling me no. He questioned me if I was trying to make him choose between him and his son, which I would NEVER do. I offered how me and him could do something for his bday whenever he got back from vacation with his mom, because I would have loved that! He then proceeded to ask me if I’m always gonna have this “imaginary beef” with his bm. He mentioned that at the assembly I didn’t try to start a convo or anything and I was just standing there looking awkward. That hurt me as well because he didn’t try to bridge a conversation between the 2 of us now did he include me in the convos that they were having. I thought me showing up and supporting his son was enough….Lastly I should mention.

There was a night, 2 years ago, where him and his bm were invited to a mutual friends bday party. He told me about the party and I wasn’t pressed on him going, because I trusted him. However I asked him not to do anything that would embarrass me or make me feel a way. Long story short, I didn’t hear from him until the next morning. He told me that his bm had got into with one of his friends. I guess they started to fight but jumped in and pulled the bm away because the cops were coming and he didn’t want her to go to jail. I guess what I’m trying to say is..am I wrong for feeling weird about him going? I can say that I’m insecure because I’ll never really know what happened that night. Now they’re traveling to Disney world together for the kids bday.

Sorry this is long and I hope this makes sense!