u/FaithlessnessLoud568

My husband is almost 20 years older than me .
I’m from another country and followed him to USA for 6 years .We have one daughter and one son .
Recent several years our relationship is worse even though sometimes is ok .And finally I want to look for a couple counselor for help.
Tl;dr:so Is marriage couple counselor ok to be trusted ? Should we choose a male or female couple counselor? And what kind of aspect should we consider for getting a reliable and good couple counselor for help?