u/FaithThePriestress

This might sound strange and sentimental/sappy, but I wanted to express my support for a certain group of women.

I love women of all kinds, truly.

But why am I saying this?

I'm a white latina woman. Here where I live, a person's skin color matters a lot, maybe not as much as in America or Europe, but it still matters.

(Btw, my mother is black, but my father is white).

I'm so white that people around me say I need to go outside to get more sun, I'm literally pale. A high school teacher told me that if I went to a european country, for example, I would easily blend in, people wouldn't suspect my true nationality because of my appearance and, of course, skin color.

Okay, why am I giving this context?

Recently, I've seen a growing anti-immigration movement and latent racism against certain groups in countries more developed than mine. I'm not going to comment on my political views because I don't think that's the core issue I want to discuss. Besides, I'm not in any of those places to know what's actually happening.

I know I'm rambling, but I just wanted to say this:

Black women, I love you.

I know it's strange to say this, but I swear it has nothing to do with fetishism or exoticism, I just genuinely adore you.

You are beautiful, perfect just the way you are, and I get incredibly angry + sad when I see accounts from black girls saying that they "don't like their skin color" or that "in their same-sex relationships, they often act like the 'man' in the relationship" (because of certain stereotypes like the strong, masculinized black woman).

I hate when I see this because there were two women of color I loved very much who always suffered because of their skin color:

The first was my mother, who was never valued by my father (he preferred to stay with the white lutheran woman, even though he was only truly happy with my mother, who was considered "the another one" in the relationship).

The second was a girl I met when I was still in school, and she always felt less because she was black, she wasn't the """ideal""" white woman, blonde with light eyes, and she was also a nerd, which I loved about her, but I think she felt like an oddball among other people (she also came from an extremely religious family, I don't know if that might have influenced her self-esteem as well).

She didn't like me, but I didn't like her any less because of that.

Yes, I also know that there are bad people everywhere and in every group, but I dedicate this text to the girls who have always felt, and often still feel, as if they are worth less in society, as if they are not missed, those who feel they will never be loved as they should be simply because of the skin color they didn't choose to have.

I truly love you sm, and I know this is cheesy asf, but I really believe you are perfect the way you are, believe it or not.

(Sorry if this sounds weird, I'm just venting and I wanted to show my support, plus I thought about publishing this on another subreddit but I got a little confused lol, have a good day 😅

Btw Isabela, I still love you after all this years).

I have been using Reddit for about a short time, but one thing that has always left me in doubt is:

Why are there so many people who delete their profiles, sometimes after asking a question or answering something?

Is it a Reddit bug? Are there any further motives in this? It is a genuine question that I have, if you can answer me in detail, I thank you.

(Ps: in most of the cases I saw, people asked and answered simple, non-problematic things, and still deleted their profiles, why?)

Olá!

Gostaria de fazer uma pergunta e quanto maior for a quantidade de respostas, melhor, se elas forem detalhadas ainda, perfeito!

Em resumo, sou uma M(22), sou bv e virgem, nunca me relacionei e, apesar de já ter tido interesse antes e até alguns poucos caras quererem ter tido um relacionamento comigo, eu nunca quis, sendo bem sincera.

Contanto um pouco do meu contexto:

Meu histórico familiar com homens é péssimo, e pesando um pouco o clima, meu pai não me amava, nunca amou, enquanto isso, meu tio era alcoolátra (não era uma pessoa ruim, mas tinha esse vício desgraçado), e pra finalizar com chave de ouro, meu irmão, uma das melhores referências masculinas que tive em casa, se mudou para o exterior, então, resumidamente, eu não tive as melhores figuras masculinas na minha vida.

Alguns anos minha prima se casou, e por que estou falando disso?

Pra encurtar a história: o marido dela é o melhor cara que eu já conheci em literalmente ANOS.

Ele é uma pessoa tão legal, tão abençoada que cara, eu realmente comecei a me questionar se valia a pena eu me relacionar com um homem ou não (dito isso, não quero o homem dela, na verdade torço pra que o casamento dela dure muitos e longos anos).

Em resumo, essa pergunta sendo destinada especificamente para mulheres (mas homens também podem responder), vocês que se relacionam ou relacionaram com homens ao longo da vida, me respondam isso, por favor:

Vale a pena? Vocês fariam de novo? Ou desistiram de vez?

Detalhe: sou uma mulher bissexual, amo mulheres, mas eu sei que tenho uma maior atração por homens.

Qualquer ajuda pra essa minha pergunta é bem-vinda!