I’m looking for some advice from people who may have gone through something similar.
I love my wife a lot. She’s an incredible partner and mum, and I genuinely admire everything she does. Our relationship is stable, and we spend time together most nights.
Although we are intimate every night, I’ve been feeling undesired for quite a while now. It’s not about frequency or anything specific, more just that I don’t feel that sense of her wanting me anymore. I miss that spark, that feeling of being chosen.
I do wish for us to flirt more. I do initiate flirty conversations or drop little lines and hints but tend to have a response looking like "Is that so?" or "that's nice to know"
I show my desire for her, I even drop my jaw every morning I see her getting ready for work, but I would love for that to be redefected back on to me.
I feel that she's very comfortable in our relationship now feels the pursuit is no longer required.
I don’t blame her, and I don’t think she’s doing anything “wrong.” I also know I have a tendency to seek validation and I’m working on that.
I do help with all the home administration and parent duties, she's even reassured to me that I am doing more than enough at home.
I do feel that I am already doing what I can to take tasks of her plate.
I want to bring this up with her, but I’m worried about it coming across as pressure or hurting her feelings.
Has anyone navigated this before? How did you approach it without making things worse?