How to convince my parents for love marriage?
A few days ago my parents got a rishta for me and wanted me to seriously consider it. I said no because I’m already in a long-term relationship and I don’t want to marry someone else just to make everyone happy temporarily.
Last night things became really emotional. My mother called me and basically said, “You’re not going to listen to us anyway, right? You only want to marry my bf.” Then she said they’ll refuse this rishta and stop looking for other matches altogether.
But the conversation got very painful after that. My parents said that if I want to marry him, then I can do it, they’ll attend the wedding and even contribute financially, but they won’t keep any relationship with him or his family, won’t talk to them, and won’t be involved beyond that.
For context, the main issue is caste. I’m Brahmin and he’s OBC, and my parents are extremely worried about relatives, society, and how people back home will react.
I honestly don’t know how to feel right now. Part of me feels relieved that they finally acknowledged how serious this relationship is instead of pretending it’s a phase. But another part of me feels incredibly guilty and heartbroken seeing how hurt and angry they are.
I love my parents a lot. I never wanted things to become this bitter. At the same time, I also genuinely love my boyfriend and have been imagining a future with him for years now.
I feel stuck between wanting my own happiness and not wanting to disappoint the people who raised me.