My husband and I just had our first child and I’m struggling with some feelings of resentment.
I know this is a common feeling among women and I’m not alone in this. I’m wondering how other families balance this out?
I 100% breastfeed, and stay at home full time, our newborn is 4 weeks old. I do all tasks of cooking and cleaning and other household chores or errands.
My husband works full time. He comes home and he will do what I ask or if I leave a list. But that’s the problem. Why do I have to ask or leave a list? Why do I have to be the one who thinks of these things all the time? Why can’t he think of these things too? Or also see it and do it?
I know there is a want from him to help but he seems to not know how to?
It’s like some tasks are automated like the trash, he sees it he does it and he feels like he helped. But everything else is forgotten or unknown or he doesn’t care?
He gets home from work and the first thing he wants to do is use the restroom and rinse off the work day. Understandably.
But he spends 1-2 hours in the bathroom….
I feel this to be unreasonable… am I overreacting on that?
I’m still caring for an infant by myself and most of the time I haven’t had food or sleep or a shower. And I don’t have any grandparents to relieve me. It’s just me…
When he’s done with that he wants to eat.. me too…. So he will take baby and then I cook food for both of us and he sits with her and plays a video game….
I’m envious cuase I’m a gamer too… I haven’t played a game since she was born…. Or any free time thing for that matter. I’m too busy sleeping when the baby sleep or feeding my mouth or hers. Or trying to catch up on some laundry or dishes.
My whole life has been change in one day and his feels like an adjustment.
How do you all balance this family life?