u/FairPersonality4240

Sorry, kind of long one here and I did post some of this a couple of years ago but this woman will not stop. I had to cut off my Mom for the second and final time in 2009. She has complained to many about it and always plays the victim card. When my Dad got pancreatic cancer over two years ago she used it to try to get at me and got my phone number from a younger sister ( which was very annoying ) and left me two vmails that I deleted without listening to. Since I refused to acknowledge her she called my Stepmom and claimed that she was 'really worried' about my Dad. My Mom and Dad split when I was five and all she ever did my entire life was say horrible things about him, mean, nasty, bitter and spiteful things even though she got remarried and had two more kids she never stopped bad mouthing him. When I was six we were given a choice about who we wanted to live with and my older sister and I called my Mom and told her we wanted to live with our Dad, she threw a manipulative crying fit and claimed she'd never get to see us again ( which obviously wasn't true ) and she didn't stop until we agreed to live with her. Then, whenever she would get mad, like the time she went on a rampage and destroyed my sister's room, upended everything and threw books all over the place, she would tell us how she wished she didn't have us so she could start over which she did not too long after by getting married but she never once encouraged us to live with our Dad, she wanted us around to take her frustrations out on, we were always the reason for her awful bitterness. When my sister finally had enough and moved in with my Dad when she was sixteen our mom sent her a nasty letter telling how she was such an awful, horrible person. Anyway, after my Dad's cancer diagnosis she sent him a couple of cards as if that would make up for all of her terrible behavior towards him, also, she did something several years ago that had a directly negative effect on him and he told her he was open to an apology and her response was to not even acknowledge what she had done and state that 'despite' what my Dad and I 'think' of her, she 'knows' she is a 'good person'. When I knew that my Dad was not going to survive the cancer I had to break the no contact and sent mom a letter telling her in no uncertain terms that she would not be welcome at the funeral and she had better not even think of going. I brought up how she refused to acknowledge, much less apologize for the incident several years ago that caused pain for my Dad, how she had NEVER said one nice thing about him and how she manipulated us into living with her when I was six and did she ever once consider how that made my Dad feel? Fast forward to now and I see my sister periodically and the last time I did she told me that Mom said, 'I don't know why Carlton ( obviously not my real name ) is mad at me'. Mom's second husband died twenty-five years ago and I got roped into taking care of her life and she pretended to be a different, nice person for a bit but then her real self came out again, the passive aggressive, bitter, helpless monster who couldn't physically abuse me anymore but played emotionally manipulative games. She will go to her deathbed ( which hopefully will be soon ) as the victim of me cutting her off. Some people never evolve and they don't even consider that they should, they are the victim of themselves but will always blame someone or something else.