u/Faded_Inspiration

My husband and I have a friend (D) who is best friend with our son. We’ve known each other for over 20 years. And our sons have grown up together. D and his baby mama are no longer together. And she has done everything in her power to keep him from his son. She’s absolutely horrible. She uses her son as a weapon to hurt D. And of course, since the course systems are built in favor of the mothers, he loses every time. He pays his child support, and all he asks for more time with his son. She denies it. And continues to try to get him for more money. As well as call him making false accusations of abuse to take rights from him. Obviously I know this because again, we are all best friends. I don’t talk to her, but she sent me an invite to her son’s birthday party. I want my son to go and have a good time with his friend, but I feel really uncomfortable going to a place where I know she is constantly plotting against my friend. I don’t approve of women using children as weapons. It’s absolutely disgusting.
However, D is going to be having his own birthday party for his son that of course we’re gonna go to. And he did mention it doesn’t matter to him if I go. He’s not gonna be there so because she won’t allow him.
So would ibtj if I don’t go to the birthday party she is throwing? Or should I just go for the sake of my son? I’m not very good at being fake. And tbh I don’t wanna have to be fake. But I love my son.