u/FadedClouds_xo

I have my CLP B and have been trying to get into CDL work. However due to my circumstances, I've been facing significant barriers being able to land a job in my desired field.

There are actually jobs available who are willing to train me to get my CDL B and work for them, but I don't have a reliable car. Many of these jobs have early start times, and the buses in my area run late as hell and don't allow me to get there on time. And no, I don't have anybody reliable to call for help who can drive me to work.

On top of that, I'm homeless and currently living in a shelter. I'm not only dealing with trying to find work in my desired field, but there is a pressure to find a job that pays well enough, and to find an affordable place to live within bus distance so I can continue working there. There are limited affordable housing options in this county which has also led me consider moving back to the city.

Living in the city without a car would allow me to be able to actually start CDL jobs early enough. However due to how long it would take me to commute from the shelter to the city for work (until I can afford to move to the city) I won't actually be able to do CDL B work and will have to find some other field (like possibly retail) that could satisfy my availability. That job search has also been incredibly difficult.

I've honestly been feeling stuck, and like my hope in being able to advance in my career is dying. Has anyone else ran into issues where they couldn't start CDL work right away, and if so what has been your journey transitioning into that field?

I've been contemplating quitting the Sims 4 for awhile now. It genuinely feels like I have to mod this game to find it any fun, and because of that, I've spent more game hours doing mod maintenance, checking for and replacing broken mods, and dealing with significant simulation lag on top of everything. I haven't truly been able to have an enjoyable smooth gameplay in a long time.​

Yes, I've tried all of the simulation lag mod fixes, nothing has seemed to work. I've also tried to be frugal about how many mods I actually install in the game, but I find myself needing a significant amount otherwise the game will feel soulless and bore the crap out of me.

To make matters worse, today is patch day and a significant amount of mods (and likely some CC) are expected to break. The monthly updates to the game paired with mods randomly malfunctioning don't make this struggle any better.

Sometimes the lag in my game overwhelms me from being able to enjoy the game. I know some of the lag is caused by my computer simply being a potato and not being fast enough to run the game smoothly, but I can't afford to buy a new one right now and Sims 4 (with mods) is one of the only few things that I can afford to do in my spare time that is helping me get through a very tough time.

The truth is I love the Sims 4 but the mod maintenance on this game and the lag is too much to bear and makes the game unenjoyable, and without the mods this game is just boring. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I've been a subscriber of Queen Chioma for a few years now. And this post by no means is supposed to promote hate towards her, but this is just something I've noticed and it has become more apparent to me as I've grown older.

I feel like she is always catering to respectability politics when it comes to how black women dress or how they act, when she doesn't have half the same energy for the opposite gender. I just got done watching her video about Ice Spice, ​and in the video she turned her personal preference for what Ice Spice was wearing into a moral issue. She got mad at people saying they didn't see an issue with Ice Spice wearing whatever she wanted, saying that they were "ignoring the real issue". I don't see her shaming the opposite gender for dressing in ways that would be considered revealing or "trashy" by societal standards, like not having a shirt on, sagging their pants, being covered in a bunch of tattoos, etc, yet she heavily criticizes women.

She has a repeated pattern of claiming that whenever a woman dresses too "revealing" for her taste, that the woman just wants attention and that her behavior is an "issue" (rather than the fact that it's just her personal preference). She has a variety of other problematic beliefs that I won't get into on this post, but this one just happened to irk my soul the most because it's one of the ones she constantly puts out.

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I just feel like as black women, there is a lot of internalized misogyny and policing of our bodies within the community that we've been forced to accept as normal. Has anyone else peeped that?