How do you deal with a parent who has anger issues?
My dad is around 60ish years old and this problem is getting stronger as each time passes.
He would shout a lot. His outburst is getting much rampant. Even by a tiny bit of mistake, he would scream his head off. He would keep murmuring insults after insults and as I grow up, I'm becoming aware of that.
I would admit that I might be difficult as a person. Gina-ako ko man nga may mga bagay man nga ginahimo ko nga naga-deserve gid sang lectures kay indi man siya healthy. Na-accept ko naman na. But I am also aware that being verbally abused at is not the sign of discipline.
Right at this moment, I have sent him tips and videos about anger management because it is something that I want to address this problem. How being angry would lead to distrust in the family. But he has come out that I shouldn't have done that because he doesn't need all of that. He would always correct me that he is "right" and I was "wrong," that I should never question his authority. Then he would go on and say “Pamati lang sa akon. Indi ka magsabat. Pamati lang.”
But its being so hypocritical because I couldn't send him any videos in regards on how to control his anger but he would lecture me that all I have ever done in my life is wrong. Daw tanan nalang sala ko kag akon kasalanan. Then he has the gall that since he's becoming old, daw absolve na siya sa tanan niya nga responsibilidad kay dapat mag-focus nalang siya sa iya health.
Which is, yes that is true but isn't focusing on how to control your anger part of that health as well?
It's becoming so detrimental to my mentality that I'm beginning to believe that it is my problem and my problem alone and that I will always be the problem.
Idk how to feel about any of this. I want to understand him but I don't think he's willing to even understand me. How do you deal with parents like this