Hi everyone,
I’m struggling after my first real relationship (about 6 months) ended, and I feel completely blindsided.
Toward the end, I noticed something off involving his ex. I confronted him, and he looked me in the eyes and told me he didn’t know what I was talking about and that he “chose me.” I believed him.
About a week later, I saw him getting a call from that same person, the one he told me was no longer in his life. It made everything click that he had lied. Things escalated quickly and I ended the relationship that day.
A week after that, I saw they were following each other again on Instagram which just confirmed for me that something was going on the whole time.
It’s been about 3 weeks and I cannot stop thinking about it.
I’m struggling with:
- how someone could do this consciously
- how I believed him
- why he hasn’t reached out at all to fix it
- and how to move on without any closure
Part of me knows I made the right decision, but I still feel stuck and constantly replaying everything.
Has anyone been through something similar (especially involving an ex and dishonesty with en ex)? How did you get past the mental loops and lack of closure?
Thanks 🤍