Wife and I have been married for 10 years. Throughout those 10 years we’ve had issues with libido differences between the two of us. For about 9 of those years I was the one who was always pursuing intimacy and getting shut down. We were having sex maybe 12 times a year if that. It was incredibly frustrating for me.
Fast forward to maybe a year ago and my libido tanked. I chalked it up to getting older, but was honestly a bit grateful that my desire was diminishing. It got to the point where I was turning her down and she was trying to initiate sex.
About a month ago I went to the doctor and after discussing some stuff he sent me to get some bloodwork done. Turns out my testosterone is low which explains the sudden drop in drive and why I’ve been more tired than usual. It was nice to have answers, and when I shared the results with my wife she was insisting that I start TRT. I haven’t talked to my doctor again since the test, but I did a little research and the “side effects” of low testosterone don’t seem to be all that negative per se. Like having low testosterone is not life threatening in any way. I don’t feel like I want to get that treatment unless my doctor is insisting that it’s necessary. The main reason why is because I don’t want my drive to come back. I told my wife this and it upset her, she thinks our sex life is too infrequent now and thinks that me getting on TRT is selfish.