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Does anyone one know if this is possible? I believe I was put into sub space, then ignored for 2 days, making me feel depressed and anxious. He said he felt the same and didn't know how to talk about it..which neither did I as it was all very new, we talked eventually and we were really really good talking communicating talks of future. I thought I'd recovered

Could this be a trigger for anxious attatchemnt?

I feel i have this but have never had this before, also limerance because I feel it's more obsession than love on my part. I am trying to regulate with support

A psychologist said he sounded avoidant

Through all of it I have felt something is off hence all my posts, I felt that it's not real I thought I had fallen for him but I am now suffering with anxiety and his lack of attention triggers it.

I believe it's limerance, but he seemingly reciprocates, although his reciprocation lacks depth.

He has said it's happened before over a 4-month period with another woman before me . It is also a joke in his family that he sends women crazy.

He says he seeks emotional connnection and chooses women that have depth and can feel that he makes them care, then turns to depression.

It's hard to comprehend that he somehow could have done it deliberately, but I don't connect to people this way and don't get anxiety and certainly don't depend on men to feel validated

Can i walk away? Do I run? Is there any point in staying

Could any one help confirm please.

Met on a site for just sex, had a few convos wasn't attracted overly but I've always been more of a personality person, i initially thought he was possibly a narc because of him saying I would fall for him or "you might fall in love with me" and his eyes look it i wasnt convinced..i forgot about covert narc s. I do think I'm quite empathic and I am very kind open person. Usually I dont take any crap.

He told me id fall for him I didn't believe him he is very clever and oh so honest about what he does to get a connection as he gets off on it. He said he sets out to do it but he denies manipulation admits it's sent women crazy admits it's him, often plays victim.

He did know some physical things I struggled with but he was patient and kind and helped massively he didn't make me feel like a chore.

Despite him (apparently) living with his ex we managed to meet regularly at hotels or his friends houses not that anyone knows about me... I know where he lives and half his family I have access to phone numbers etc

I have called him out on his behavior I have no idea if he thin ks he is a dark empath.

I was distancing myself the other day to regulate myself. Nothing had changed in the relationship except what I thought were my feelings. I suddenly realized I was stuck falling for someone who wasnt available. And my only choice was to leave. Which made me uncharacteristically upset.

I distanced myself and came across a bit cold and he went in a rant he's apologized for.

His actions don't always match his words. At first was great now not so much but he is now moving out of his exes (so he says)

He knows he does all this he says he wants a connection he says he feels the same way about me but i dont think he knows what it really feels like.

I think my nervous system and my brain is telling me to get the fuck out but I am struggling, the empath in me sees at the core it's vulnerability but I also don't believe he has any desire to change. And while he may feel some of what I feel I don't for a second believe it's as deep.

Sad thing is the lifestyle he says he wants I am more than up for everything he wants would be possible but I said I cant regulate his and my emotions it's draining. I'm currently in hospital with what I though was anxiety but is looking more like heartbreak probably.

I think I need to get out but I need to know om right. If anyone wants to see msgs I'm happy to share