Girlfriend won’t stay in City for a improved Opportunity (27M /26F) 2 year relationship HELP
TL;DR - GF will not stay in same city as me for work as she hates it, improved opportunities for future but for her will only be a change in office same company
Me (27) and girlfriend (26f) have been together 2 years, I am from Scotland and work born and bred, she has moved from Ireland for work. We both work in the offshore energy sector. She wants to move to the Netherlands as she hates the city that we currently live in and I have the opportunity to move into a role
That I really want to pursue. Whilst she can just move to a different office and is from a country that is in the EU. I would have to get a different job in a country which I will need to get a visa. I feel like one of us has to compromise and in my opinion her role will not change when she moves she will just be in a different office.
Whilst for me it is being involved in larger scale projects which for the future will give me better opportunities abroad.
We have tried to talk it through but she is avoidant of conflict and sometimes struggles to get across
How she actually feels. She just says that it’s my decision but
I want to know what she thinks
And would
She be willing to compromise for the future
I have spoke to my friends about it and they feel like it’s not a good thing to move away with someone if they are willing to potentially end a relationship over a job.
What should I do, should I try and get her to open up or??
TIA