Should I move in with my parents to new house?
Me (f) 18 years old, still live with my parents. I barely stay at the house because i housesit other people houses or stay at my boyfriend's place. I don't pay any rent because the house we live in right now was given us by a church and we have to pay just for utilities, which is about $500 a month, not a lot for CA.
I am going to college, working 2 jobs and sometimes watching my siblings, sister 7yo, brother 11yo. Unfortunately my relationship with my dad are really bad. I usually prefer not talking to him because every time it turns into an argument. He is that kind of person who finds second meanings in your words. For example if I am going to say "Imma go for a walk with my friend" he will respond with "Oh so you already decided that you going on a walk?! So it's not a question? So you basically just informing me? Who said you can go on a walk? and it will go on forever, even tho i didn't mean it to sound disrespectful. So i just try to stay away from it as much as I can, but even when I don't talk to him he can say comments that aren't nice like "stop eating at night, you will be fat".
The house where we live at right now found my mom, with her I have amazing relationships. She is the best mom ever and doing everything for us. She also works 2 jobs, cleans, cooks and watches my siblings. I am trying to help her with everything cause ik how hard and overwhelming it gets, but i don't have much time for myself either, cause I basically don't have any days off. My dad on the other hand just goes to work and then plays video games.
Recently the church people told us that they will need the house back in a few month because their priest is retiring and new priest comes from Florida with his family and will live in that house. For us 5 people to find a new house that we could afford is really hard, because both my mom and dad make not a lot. Yesterday my dad brought us together and said that he found a house for us to stay that will be even bigger that they one we live in right now but it will be around $3000 a month, which is still cheaper than usual house that size in our area.
But how i said before i work and go to college. My main job is an hour away from where we staying right now and my college is 35 minutes away. The place he found would be even further from everything for me, I would also have to start paying rent, because he clearly looked at me when said the price and said that we all will have to pay our parts. Another thing is that I DON'T WANT TO LIVE WITH HIM he makes my life at home stressfull. My mom gives me those promisses that she will divorce him for years, but never actually does it. I know they probably will afford the rent there by themselves but they will be very tight on money. I will have to pay $1000 for place further from everything I need, plus live in stress from my dad. My bf said that I can move in with him if i want to for free, but his place is even further from everything and he lives with his family too, Ik they love me and would not mind me live with them. I jus feel bad for my mom cause i won't be able to help her with siblings that much. I still really want to live with them just not with my dad, idk what to do. I am also not sure if that's a great idea to live with my bf. I am with him for 6 months.