TL;DR My girlfriend is putting her friend who she barely knows above me consistently.
Me and my partner have been together 3 1/2 years, Friday or Saturday has always been our day to spend together, every now and again one of us has made plans and we’re both fine with that. We don’t live together and that is the only time I see her apart from picking her up from work (maybe 30mins to 1 hour a day, 4 days a week). She started a new job in December and made a friend which I am happy about as she struggles with “real friends”, but I’ve started to notice a pattern this past month. The first week of April, she slept at mine Friday, and got annoyed at me because I snored and kept her awake because she needed to be awake early(to go out drinking with her new friend) I didn’t think anything of it at the time because I felt bad for keeping her awake and I didn’t really deep it that much, but this was the first time she put her above me. The following week she said to me she wasn’t going to stop at all this week because she’s going out for one of her co workers birthdays with her work friend. This slightly upset me but I just got on with it and didn’t say anything. In the end she did agree to sleep Sunday but again 2nd choice, That week while taking her home she forgot her key and ended up having to stay at mine anyway. The following week, I asked her on Monday if she is coming round this weekend and she told me she is going out again, and she said she would come round Friday but she needs to be awake early (in a nutshell we would spend less than 5hours together in reality before she needed to leave) at this point I got upset and said this isn’t right and would like you to come round to mine instead. she then compromised and said she would come round when she was finished going out, that night I waited for her until 2am for her to tell me she’s just going home. I mentioned how I felt the following morning just to be met with accusations of jealousy, when in actual fact I’m happy she has found a friend but not happy that she is letting it get in the way of our relationship. I said to her that “I know you aren’t cheating on me, but it feels like you’re cheating on me because you aren’t giving us anytime because you would rather spend it getting drunk with her.” She said “im not letting you ruin this for me” the other night when taking her home an argument erupted because of this. In which I’ve said it isn’t right you are purposefully and consistently choosing her over me, she will not try to see it from my view and just accuses me of jealousy and thinking she’s cheating on me and not trusting her (I don’t think she’s cheating on me) she said she prefers to spend time with her because she doesn’t annoy her. I feel like a jerk but I can’t help but feel that this isn’t right and her choosing her friend over me consistently is a breach of the sanctuary of relationship. She is out tonight and suppose to come round after. If she doesn’t not I’m seriously thinking about pulling the plug